Six tips for relationship resuscitation

Has your relationship become boring? Is it a little staid? The truth is boredom happens from time to time even in the best of relationships. It does not necessarily mean it has to be over. This dull place could actually provide an opportunity to breathe life into it.

1) Talk about it
It’s time to be open with one another. Why not sit down with a glass of wine. Using open questions, take turns to ask each other what would make the relationship better.
Try to see the relationship as something that you can both improve. Something that can be worked on and something than can be great in the future.
It’s funny, many people spend hours of their time improving their home or honing skills, few spend any serious time thinking about growing a relationship.

2) Prioritise Sex
Schedule time for sex. When there is emotional distance or friction in a relationship, there is usually less intimacy. This distance often escalates, it becomes very difficult to reconnect.
Making love leads to an increase in oxytocin. This is the hormone associated with bonding. Communication will become easier. It may seem very unromantic scheduling time for sex into your diary but it is important.

3) Restart old habits. What did you used to do when love was new? Why not revisit those old habits. It will make you both feel good and alive again.

4) Schedule regular dates or short breaks away
Often relationships begin to fail through boredom. Life often becomes a routine of juggling work, paying bills and caring for the kids. Demands on time have never been higher. Relationships inevitably take a backseat. This is usually not through laziness, but simply due to the demands of 21st century living.
Scheduling regular time together, free from distractions is an investment in yourselves. That investment will pay dividends getting you through the tough times and leading to exciting times ahead.

5) Begin a new hobby together
It is a well-known fact that learning a new skill together creates intimacy, deepens friendship and generally puts back the zing into a relationship. Choosing a new interest is the beginning of the fun.

6) Design a future together
Psychologists will tell you that people who are successful usually visualise their success. They spend time thinking what success will look and feel like. These people follow thoughts of success by putting steps into place that will allow them to reach their goals. A relationship can be treated in the same manner. The first step is constructing a flexible blueprint. This will serve as a map to creating the relationship you want.
Written by Sheehan Brooke Psychology providers of psychological well-being services throughout the UK.   We are able to provide a full range of psychological services including couple and family therapy.
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